Yet More Social Media Ranting

I work in an industry where technology is at the heart of everything that we do. The sex business had forms of social media before Facebook was created in a Harvard dorm room. Bear in mind, by the way, when reading Mark Zuckerberg´s protestations that Facebook is meant to be a tool for creating community and happiness and giving people access to information, the original design of Facebook and the reason for its name. Facebook was originally created with all the photos of the female students at Harvard and an interactive scoring system. Basically, people went onto the site and scored the photos of the female students from the yearbook on a score of 1 to 10 for how hot they were. Hence The Face Book. Very liberal and permissive. But now Facebook and social media generally hates escorts and sex workers. How hypocritical of them! Especially as many of them steal their best ideas from the sex industry. Snapchat with its disappearing messages – not meant for sex at all, of course.

pexels-photo-914931.jpegThe different social media platforms all take different approaches to trying to ban or minmise sex workers on their media. And, when they do, it is always in the guise of preventing or taking action against human trafficking and human slavery. Ignoring every expert who all point out that the majority of sex workers are in the industry voluntarily and that the number of sex workers who are trafficked or working under conditions of slavery is tiny. Twitter shadow bans escorts by suspending their accounts or limiting the number of people they are allowed to follow. Which, of course means that people do not follow them. Facebook just bans anything to do with sex. Apart from gang rapes by Islamic State. They are news and free speech, as are be headings. Instagram is in the trenches of the war against the greatest threat to humanity ever identified – the female nipple. The list goes on and on.

And now the United States Senate has a bill before it that a couple of douche bags added an “anti trafficking” amendment to. Which would make it illegal for any American corporation, citizen owning a web site or even hosting a site relating to sex work on their servers or allowing it to move via their systems – you know, the whole interconnected internet – become liable to prosecution for aiding and promoting human trafficking. So the managers of the tech companies being misogynistic dick heads may soon be the least of our concerns in the sex business.


More Social Media Ranting

Social media can have effects on mental health, both for good and ill. No real surprise there to anyone who has smiled at a cat video or been astonished by the almost physical aguish that a thirteen year old experiences when their network goes down for a few minutes. But there is science behind the observations too. Studies have shown that getting “likes” for images and posts actually results in a release of dopamine, a brain chemical associated with pleasure. Moreover, sad or moving posts can promote release of oxytocin, the “love hormone,” which makes us feel protected. It seems that even the way we use it makes a difference. In a face book study at the University of Missouri “surveillance use” of Facebook was studied . Surveillance use is, lurking and deliberately seeking out posts that may feed insecurity — “was a significant indicator of the potential for depression,” says Duffy of her study.

pexels-photo-920382.jpegThe sex industry are early adopters and heavy users of anything and everything social media related. The sex industry has been and always will be at the very leading edge of technology. Instant messaging was not invented by the sex industry, but the sex industry took it, worked with it and perfected it. Escorts especially have benefited from that particular tool and the modern versions including WhatsApp,Twitter, Snapchat, Instagram and so on. Streaming video was first put on to mobile phones by the sex industry. Video compression was developed for and by the sex industry and so on. So we in the sex business are some of the experts on social media and the effects it can have.

Follower counts, likes, reposts are all explicitly designed by the social media companies to drive “engagement” and increase the amount of time that users spend on their social media accounts. Which means that they can sell more advertising at greater prices. And also, of course, as we re tweet, like, follow, re blob we also tell the social media businesses about our interests tastes and beliefs. Which means that they can sell more advertising at greater prices. So do not buy into any founder of a social media platform talking about making the world a better place. It is about money and power.

But for us poor users, the research tells a simple message. Less time on social media means more happiness. Less, as they say, is more.

I’ve Got The Sex Industry Social Media Blues

With my job running escort agencies requiring me to be involved in, manage or design marketing through every promotional channel you can imagine, I spend a lot of time either on or thinking about social media. And, to be honest, I am bored with it and it pisses me off. But I know that there are only two sets of responses to social media. Love and hate. For people who engage in it, that is there are lots of very successful, sensible and happy people who have as little to do with social media as possible. And that includes, interestingly the senior management teams and programmers at most of the major technology companies. Hmmm…interesting.

pexels-photo-313690.jpegSo I did a little research and this is what I found. According to research here are the ways to get happy with Social Media, whether you are a civilian living what I am told is a “normal” life, a hobbyist who hires escorts as often as possible, a marketer or a professional escort girl. And incidentally, what is this normal of which people speak? It sounds so dull.


Apparently according to research just being a heavy user of social media, like Facebook, doesn’t mean you’re likely more vulnerable to depression. I found that hard to believe personally, but that is just my prejudices at play. Certainly for me, spending hours every day on the various social media accounts that my business operates is a loathsome experience. And not just because of all the dick pics that we get bombarded with even on supposedly non adult media such as Instagram. Even though much of the process of posting is done by other people, I can not understand how people find social media fulfilling. And I say that even as someone whose businesses have a total of four hundred thousand followers across all platforms.

Perhaps my view is prejudiced by the fact that I spend so long looking at social media as a business tool for winning clients and sourcing suppliers or for SEO purposes that the idea of sitting down on the sofa and looking at Facebook or Twitter fills me with an existential dread. Though I do still like looking at clothes on Pinterest because I do not use it for business. But cat videos still get me though. I am human after all!