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I Sell Sex For A Living

Here is the thing that does not normally come up in general conversation with strangers. Well, actually it is more likely to come up with strangers than with most of my so called friends because of peoples preconceptions and expectations. I sell sex for a living. And believe me when I tell you that selling sex for a living is much harder than you think. I put a lot of work into every transaction that takes place, and in many cases I put even more work into the transactions that do not take place! But the bottom line is that I receive money in return for arranging for other people to have sex. As far as I am concerned, selling sex is a transaction just like any other. I used to run a recruitment business and work as an executive search consultant – a corporate head hunter – and coincidentally I got paid exactly the same percentage for arranging those transactions as for arranging sexual assignations.curvy blonde escort madrid nude big boobs tape measure

I have a very pragmatic view about sex and money. As I say, it is a transaction just like any other. I also have a rather pragmatic view about romance and dating. I think that – in one way or another – everyone is either paid for sex or pays for sex. I know that sounds aggressive and extreme. But in my view, a girl who goes out on a date with a guy that she meets on Tinder, lets him buy dinner, take her to a club and buy their drinks and then has sex with him is doing exactly the same as a Geneva escort. And a guy who meets a woman for a date, buys drinks, dinner and takes her to a club and then assumes that sex must be on the menu because he has spent so much is exactly the same as a guy buying the time of a high class escort.

I often say to the girls who work for me that they have taken the most ethical decision. They have asked themselves the question “why not get cash for sex rather than a handbag and dinner?” and they have reached the right conclusion as far as I am concerned. It is certainly a lot more honest.

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People Do Not Suspect You Are An Escort

It is easy for an escort and her male client to get excessively paranoid about what other people are thinking while they are out and about socially. Here is the truth. Far less people are suspicious of the woman and the male client than you might think. And even fewer people actually care. It is extremely common to be paranoid when you are a professional escort. But the fact is that it is very unusual for people to think that someone is a professional sex worker. Especially if she has been briefed by the escort agency and are dressed appropriately for the occasion.pexels-photo-313690.jpeg

If the escort is dressed inappropriately she will stand out in a bad way. If she is well dressed she will stand out in a good way. . If she goes out with a client, they both may imagine that people know your secret. That can be fun for the client sometimes and in some situations. Being seen with a beautiful and sexy woman from Barbies Babes Escorts Leeds can be a real turn on for a man, especially when he is paying or her time. It is safe exhibitionism showing who he can afford to have on his arm, even for an hour or a night.

As an escort walks through a hotel reception area to get to a clients room or to meet them in the bar, she can easily start wondering if the staff recognize her. Or she might wonder if the hotel guests have worked out what she does for a living. She can start to hope that her client has been sensible and discreet about making sure that she has access to his room. Escort girls hate hotels where the lifts require key card access.

It is very unlikely that any escort will be identified as a sex worker when she visit is a hotel. People are too busy to suspect anything. And if they do suspect that a woman is a sex worker they do not care. She will certainly not be the the only hooker to visit that hotel. She is probably not the first escort to visit that client. If an escort is dressed appropriately for the venue and situation, it is easy to look sexy but not be noticed. That is true even when a woman wants to stand out a little bit. Even when her extreme beauty gets her noticed wherever she goes, people will not automatically assume that she is an escort. They will just notice the woman. Which is good, because it means that the client will appreciate her too. And it is nice to be admired.

The simple secret of being an escort who visits clients in hotels is simple. She needs to learn to relax about her work and not worry about being identified. A wise escort does not advertise that she is selling sex if she wants to stay in business.

IT IS NOT EASY BEING THIS SEXY

Being a San Antonio escort or an escort in Barcelona is not an easy job. There are the obvious issues that go with being a female in any situation as the first of the potential things that will weigh you down. You will have to face the risks of violence, sexual or otherwise.

girl in chair escort benidorm black backless teddy high heels with red solesAs a professional escort you need to be aware of and stay on top of your sexual health. Your gynaecologist will become a close friend and confidant and there are so many risks and situations that you need to manage, whether you indulge in anal sex or not, whether you do oral sex without condom (OWO) or not. And if you do indulge in oral sex without a condom you have to decide whether you are willing to let a client cum in your mouth. And if you do, whether you spit or swallow. Obviously you will not do any kind or penetrative sex without a condom, neither vaginal nor anal. The rules are not the same for a professional escort as they are for any kind of amateur, no matter how enthusiastic or promiscuous she may be. You need to be aware of the risks of being robbed as you will undoubtedly be out late at night and may have a good bag and potentially lots of cash.

All escorts in San Antonio or Barcelona will be working long and very unpredictable hours. But undoubtedly some days even the best escort San Antonio can offer may not be called on at all, which is stressful and paranoia inducing. And then the world will just explode and you will have several bookings in a single night. That means dashing from place to place while looking cool and hot and keeping to the schedule while making each client the centre of your attention and giving them all of your focus and energy. And as luck will have it (Murphy’s Law being what it is) when you have been busy all night, are exhausted, sore and need a break are exactly the times that you will then have a busy day time, with clients wanting to see you from late morning all the way through the afternoon and evening.

MARBELLA SEX

Marbella is all about sex. Well, sex and glamour. Maybe sex, glamour and money. But perhaps that is actually all the same thing. In Marbella, sex, glamour and money are so closely linked that they are almost synonyms. The equation might work in several ways, but always the same three elements. Money will buy you sex and glamour. Glamour will make you sexy and get you money. Being sexy will make you glamorous and get you money. And if you have money and glamour you will definitely be sexy.

tanned legs on white sunbed pool in background escort ibizaIf you want sex in Marbella, you need to be glamorous or have money. If you have money, it makes you glamorous and you can get sex. If you have money, you can get the most glamorous partners for sex. If you are sexy, you can get money for your glamour. If you are glamorous, you can exchange sex for money. Which brings us to the adult industry in Marbella and the Costa Del Sol, the definition of the honest and straightforward exchange of glamour and sex for money.

High-class escort agencies such as Marbella Beauties and 2nd Circle Escort are in the business of bringing the most glamorous and sexy women in the world to one of the most famous playgrounds for the rich and shameless. Scores of brothels, gentlemen’s clubs, lap dancing clubs, pick-up bars such as Joys and all of the other routes for professionals to exchange the opportunity to have sex with glamorous females in return for money.

There is a huge amount of professional sex available for horny men in Marbella. And that is without discussing the semi-professionals who hang out in bars of Puerto Banus such as La Sala in their finest and most glamorous heels and bandage dresses. Scores of beautifully maintained and presented women of various ages and nationalities looking hot as hell and happy to exchange the pleasure of their company and bodies for a good night out, a meal in a top restaurant and just a few presents – a Louis Vuitton handbag or a pair of Jimmy Choos perhaps? But obviously they are not sex workers. Not in their minds anyway. They are just happy to accept that men will spend their money in order to spend time with a beautiful woman.

The high-class escorts of 2nd Circle Marbells Escorts and Marbella Beauties from The Marbella Escort Agency are far more open, honest and straightforward about the exchange of erotic capital that makes Marbella tick. Men want sex with glamorous women, god bless them. And lots of women also want sex with wealthy men. So why not be honest about who is doing what to whom and why?

Much of the social life of Marbella is, at its heart, based around the simple transaction of money for glamorous sex. Some of it is dressed up as romance. Some of it is more simple and less messy. Who is to say which is better? Well me, actually. I really like experts and professionals in every field.

Never Run An Escort Agency Like Heidi Fleiss

The day to day life of an escort agency owner and manager who wants a long and successful career is very different to the expectations of most people, which are pretty much formed by films, TV and the media in general. The common expectation is that of some kind of Heidi Fleiss – the Hollywood Madam – character. They assume that most of the business consists of wandering in to major nightclubs and bars with a stable of glamorous, beautiful and sexy women behind her. They then get taken into the VIP rooms with all the celebrities and rich business men, drink network and get down to business. And then the clients get added to the legendary black book and become regular VIP clients. You get your name and jason statham and rosie huntington whieteley keep their relationship quietphotos in the papers, magazines, blogs. Twitter, Vine, YouTube, Snapchat and everything else. But here is the problem. Heidi Fleiss was in business for four years. And then she got busted for prostitution, tax evasion, supplying drugs, and dozens of other charges. She served twenty months of a seven year sentence. Ouch.

Her predecessor on the other hand, a lady called Madam Alex – real name Alex Adams – ran her escort business quietly, discreetly and under the radar for nearly twenty years. She was only caught when, quite frankly, her former protege Heidi Fleiss grassed her up to the police, despite later trying to flaunt her virtue in not revealing her client list. Which she was clearly paid to keep silent. Alex Adams had a black book of the most powerful, rich and famous men in the whole of the Western world and beyond. And she did it without anyone knowing her name beyond the whisper of the word “Alex”.

That is how you run an escort agency if you want to be successful. You keep your head down, your profile low and your mouth shut. But, unlike the illustrious Ms Adams you do not trust anyone. Ever. At All. About anything. Build an apprentice or protege? I would rather chew my own right arm off. I love going to nightclubs and dancing the night away. I even frequent the VIP rooms of those nightclubs. But only after I have made damn sure that none of my escort girls are working there that night.

America Is Schizophrenic About Escorts

Running an escort agency business in most situations is just like running any other business. It has its differences of course, but those are more of perception than reality. Well, if you are outside of the United States of America anyway. The United States has this weirdly schizophrenic attitude and actions toward sex and sexuality. They produce the vast majority of pornography anywhere in the world. They have technology businesses such as Pornhub who are at the very forefront of the tech industry, on the bleeding edge of just what can be delivered down a broadband or 4G pipeline. Silicon Valley is home to publicly traded companies who are largely based on putting out some of the most shocking and surprising images and videos I have ever seen – and I am a professional in the sex business, so you would think I could brunette escort in kitchen wearing pink lace panties and white crop tophardly be shocked. But Twitter and Tumblr manage to surprise me every single day.

And yet other technology companies such as Facebook and Instagram wage a constant and never ending battle against the most invidious and dangerous challenge to human morality ever created – the female nipple. Anything that even hints at or portrays such a wantonly disgusting thing is banned from their sites until their human checkers in a battery farm have decided that an image is acceptable. And sexy women who want to have sex with men and get paid for it are persecuted and prosecuted for doing the most natural thing in the world. But Hollywood can make mainstream TV series such as The Deuce and The Girlfriend Experience with prostitutes as the stars. Pretty much nowhere else will you be arrested for running an escort business unless you break one or all of the four golden rules: not under age girls. No drugs. No illegal immigrants. Pay your taxes.

In pretty much every other country in the world, if you follow those rules then running an escort agency is totally legal. It is pretty much only in America that you can but a fifty calibre handgun but not pay a woman to have sex with her. In forty two of the fifty states it is perfectly legal to buy a handgun with a suppressor. What the hell do you need a suppressed handgun for other than murder? Home protection so you can kill a burglar without waking the kids? But you cannot give a guy a blowjob and get a financial reward for it. Insanity.

Yet More Social Media Ranting

I work in an industry where technology is at the heart of everything that we do. The sex business had forms of social media before Facebook was created in a Harvard dorm room. Bear in mind, by the way, when reading Mark Zuckerberg´s protestations that Facebook is meant to be a tool for creating community and happiness and giving people access to information, the original design of Facebook and the reason for its name. Facebook was originally created with all the photos of the female students at Harvard and an interactive scoring system. Basically, people went onto the site and scored the photos of the female students from the yearbook on a score of 1 to 10 for how hot they were. Hence The Face Book. Very liberal and permissive. But now Facebook and social media generally hates escorts and sex workers. How hypocritical of them! Especially as many of them steal their best ideas from the sex industry. Snapchat with its disappearing messages – not meant for sex at all, of course.

pexels-photo-914931.jpegThe different social media platforms all take different approaches to trying to ban or minmise sex workers on their media. And, when they do, it is always in the guise of preventing or taking action against human trafficking and human slavery. Ignoring every expert who all point out that the majority of sex workers are in the industry voluntarily and that the number of sex workers who are trafficked or working under conditions of slavery is tiny. Twitter shadow bans escorts by suspending their accounts or limiting the number of people they are allowed to follow. Which, of course means that people do not follow them. Facebook just bans anything to do with sex. Apart from gang rapes by Islamic State. They are news and free speech, as are be headings. Instagram is in the trenches of the war against the greatest threat to humanity ever identified – the female nipple. The list goes on and on.

And now the United States Senate has a bill before it that a couple of douche bags added an “anti trafficking” amendment to. Which would make it illegal for any American corporation, citizen owning a web site or even hosting a site relating to sex work on their servers or allowing it to move via their systems – you know, the whole interconnected internet – become liable to prosecution for aiding and promoting human trafficking. So the managers of the tech companies being misogynistic dick heads may soon be the least of our concerns in the sex business.

More Social Media Ranting

Social media can have effects on mental health, both for good and ill. No real surprise there to anyone who has smiled at a cat video or been astonished by the almost physical aguish that a thirteen year old experiences when their network goes down for a few minutes. But there is science behind the observations too. Studies have shown that getting “likes” for images and posts actually results in a release of dopamine, a brain chemical associated with pleasure. Moreover, sad or moving posts can promote release of oxytocin, the “love hormone,” which makes us feel protected. It seems that even the way we use it makes a difference. In a face book study at the University of Missouri “surveillance use” of Facebook was studied . Surveillance use is, lurking and deliberately seeking out posts that may feed insecurity — “was a significant indicator of the potential for depression,” says Duffy of her study.

pexels-photo-920382.jpegThe sex industry are early adopters and heavy users of anything and everything social media related. The sex industry has been and always will be at the very leading edge of technology. Instant messaging was not invented by the sex industry, but the sex industry took it, worked with it and perfected it. Escorts especially have benefited from that particular tool and the modern versions including WhatsApp,Twitter, Snapchat, Instagram and so on. Streaming video was first put on to mobile phones by the sex industry. Video compression was developed for and by the sex industry and so on. So we in the sex business are some of the experts on social media and the effects it can have.

Follower counts, likes, reposts are all explicitly designed by the social media companies to drive “engagement” and increase the amount of time that users spend on their social media accounts. Which means that they can sell more advertising at greater prices. And also, of course, as we re tweet, like, follow, re blob we also tell the social media businesses about our interests tastes and beliefs. Which means that they can sell more advertising at greater prices. So do not buy into any founder of a social media platform talking about making the world a better place. It is about money and power.

But for us poor users, the research tells a simple message. Less time on social media means more happiness. Less, as they say, is more.

I’ve Got The Sex Industry Social Media Blues

With my job running escort agencies requiring me to be involved in, manage or design marketing through every promotional channel you can imagine, I spend a lot of time either on or thinking about social media. And, to be honest, I am bored with it and it pisses me off. But I know that there are only two sets of responses to social media. Love and hate. For people who engage in it, that is there are lots of very successful, sensible and happy people who have as little to do with social media as possible. And that includes, interestingly the senior management teams and programmers at most of the major technology companies. Hmmm…interesting.

pexels-photo-313690.jpegSo I did a little research and this is what I found. According to research here are the ways to get happy with Social Media, whether you are a civilian living what I am told is a “normal” life, a hobbyist who hires escorts as often as possible, a marketer or a professional escort girl. And incidentally, what is this normal of which people speak? It sounds so dull.

 

Apparently according to research just being a heavy user of social media, like Facebook, doesn’t mean you’re likely more vulnerable to depression. I found that hard to believe personally, but that is just my prejudices at play. Certainly for me, spending hours every day on the various social media accounts that my business operates is a loathsome experience. And not just because of all the dick pics that we get bombarded with even on supposedly non adult media such as Instagram. Even though much of the process of posting is done by other people, I can not understand how people find social media fulfilling. And I say that even as someone whose businesses have a total of four hundred thousand followers across all platforms.

Perhaps my view is prejudiced by the fact that I spend so long looking at social media as a business tool for winning clients and sourcing suppliers or for SEO purposes that the idea of sitting down on the sofa and looking at Facebook or Twitter fills me with an existential dread. Though I do still like looking at clothes on Pinterest because I do not use it for business. But cat videos still get me though. I am human after all!

Ten Hooker Commandments

I know it doesn’t seem likely, but I am a big fan of hip-hop and rap. All the way from LL Cool J  before he went to NCIS Los Angeles and before Ice T joined Law and Order. And a track I have always loved is 10 Crack Commandment by Biggie. So, I have I have done an homage to it (butchered it really) by making it specific to me industry – escort agencies and hookers.

It’s the ten pro commandments, what?
Hooker can’t tell me nothing about this cock
Can’t tell me nothing about this dick, this need, my hustlin’ hookers
Hookers on the corner I ain’t forget you hookers, my triple beam hookers

I’ve been in this game for years, it made me an animal
It’s rules to this shit, I wrote me a manual
A step-by-step booklet for you to get
Your game on track, not your wig pushed back
Rule Number Uno, never let no one know
How much dough you hold cause you know
The cheddar breed jealousy ‘specially
If that man fucked up, get yo’ ass stuck up
Number 2, never let ’em know your next move
Don’t you know Bad Boys move in silence and violence?
Take it from your highness
I done squeezed mad clips at these cats for their girls and pimps
Number 3, never trust no-bo-dy
Your moms’ll set that ass up, properly gassed up
Hoodied and masked up, shit, for that fast buck
She be laying in the bushes to light that ass up
Number 4, I know you heard this before
Never cream pie on your own supply
Number 5, never sell no cock where you rest at
I don’t care if they want a wank, tell ’em bounce!
Number 6, that goddamn credit? Dead it
You think a cockhead paying you back, shit forget it!
7, this rule is so underrated
Keep your family and business completely separated
Money and blood don’t mix like 2 dicks and no bitch
Find yourself in serious shit
Number 8, never keep no weight on you!
Them cats that squeeze your guns can hold jums too
Number 9 shoulda been Number 1 to me,
If you ain’t gettin’ bagged stay the fuck from police
If hookers think you snitchin’ they ain’t trying to listen
They be sittin’ in your kitchen, waiting to start hittin’
Number 10, a strong word called buying backlinks
Strictly for live men, not for freshmen
If you ain’t got the cheddar, say “hell no!”
‘Cause they gon’ want they money rain sleet hail snow
Follow these rules you’ll have mad bread to break up
If not, 24 years on the wake up
Slug hit your temple, watch your frame shake up
Caretaker did your makeup, when you passed
Your girl fucked my man Jake up, heard in three weeks
She sniffed a whole half of cake up
Heard she suck a good dick, and can start a new site up
Gotta go gotta go, more pies to bake up, word up

With apologies to the Original Songwriters: Christopher E Martin / Khary Turner / Khary Kimani Turner

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